Good Enough

The concept good enough parent introduced by dr. Winnicott, is holding me in its thrall for a while. I think it is a very meaningful concept. It provides a lenze to normalize our lives. Not only for the role as a parent, also for the roles we have as leaders, co-workers, business owners, citizens, doctors, professors, kids, students. Whatever role you have in our society, we have norms and labels for everything. Everything should run smoothly and swiftly. More and more people are feeling a backfire effect. How long can a person cope when experiencing on several levels that it is not good enough? It is freeing to think: what I did or said, it was good enough. How about offering this to our own environment? Kids coming home with a just good enough test, and saying that it is good. Your partner at home; been folding laundry or cooking , in their own manner, and saying that it is good. Your colleagues have been quick fixing a problem, having other views than you, and saying that it is good. I also use it as a coach. For myself and as a new lenze for my clients. If we could just all lower the bar a bit, it might just give us some more rest, joy and less stress. This is not a plea for lowering the bar either.